I noticed last Friday that Daltons attitude, behaviour and over all personality where...off. I knew he was having second thought of waiting to have a summer birthday party and thought that maybe the issue.
Saturday, he was at my parents while I worked. When I got there I was told he had done nothing but whined and cry the entire afternoon? I asked him what was up he said nothing, as his eyes welled up
I asked if he was tired, mad, upset, angery??
"No"
So I kind of let it go as we started his Wii party. He was fine while we were dancing away and for cake. But when it came to open presents he was off again.
He was excited about his gift (he got exactly what he asked for). Saturday night he had a sleep over at grandma and grandpas. He had a late night watching movies with grandpa, and an early morning so I figured Sunday (his actual birthdays wasn't going to be no better). Honestly we were all on pins and needles Sunday.
We came home early after art class, Nathan, Dalton and myself where having breakfast for dinner and a movie night (Alex was sleeping over with Grandpa to watch wrestlemania). We had dinner, got set up to watch the show and dalton had a complete meltdown....tears, screaming, yelling, hitting, everything a 2 yr old would do. I physically had to take him to his room so he didn't hurt himself or anyone else.
I let him calm down, went back said that once he settled down he was welcome to appoligize and join us.
About 10 minutes later he came out, said he was sorry and joined us.
After the movie, it started again. It was now bed time, school was the next morning, he was up late the last 2 nights.
He wasn't tired, he wasn't going to school, he didn't want to live hear, he didn't want to sleep in his bed. This lasted about 30 minutes.
I will admit I was done, it had been a long day/week, I was in physical pain for his last meltdown and I lost my cool. Told him to get his arse into bed, close his eyes, and stop crying.
Not at all how I hoped his birthday would go but at this point it was out if my hands
Monday morning was no better, after school we got to relive the day all over again. This time it started over homework. He got 0/10 on his spelling last week and I made a change to how we will handle spelling, which lead to a 25 minute meltdown followed by tears (for both of us) and a feeling of defete
I stood my ground, stuck to my guns and we were able to get spelling complete
So this sums up how his birthday went...now the big question is why???
Well that's simple (or at least my guess as to what caused this is simple)...Dalton never heard from his father at all this weekend (or for the last 9wks)
He is beginning to question where he is, why he stopped showing up and in his eyes (as well as most of us) his dad just doesn't care anymore!
The worse part, as hard as this is to say cause no parent should ever favor one child or another....Dalton's always been the favorite when it came to his Dad. He was always spoiled by him, he spent more time with him and they just got along.
In the last 2 years since we split this has only gotten worse.
Last year Dalton received about $150 worth of gifts from his dad. He was also the only child who actually received a call for their birthday.
This year NOTHING, no call, email, text nothing. The day came and went and the closer bed time came the more you could see the disappointment in his eyes.
I tried talking to him, asking questions, reassuring him we all still loved him but at the end of the day, it's his dad he wanted.
He say he know we all love him and will always be here no matter what but doesn't understand why his dad couldn't even call.
I pray this isn't his only memory of this birthday and I pray I have the strength to keep moving forward as a single parent!
Somedays are not easy I tell ya!
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