For my resolution this year my goal is to help a different person/family every month.
This isn't a hand out but a hand up...more for those who have been down on their luck due to whatever reason. Not people looking for pity party.
Some of the people on my list...(Yes I'm already up to May!) are close friends who have had some rough weeks/months, one is a women who when I first meet her I will admit that I was kind of taken back by her (like oh shes one of those people) but have come to find out she would give you the shirt off her own back if she thought you need it, another is a single mom who, like myself, her husband upped and left out of the blue...she was working full time while also helping a family member dealing with Cancer, only to have her hours cut back at work...and lastly is anther woman who has such amazing talent and runs her own business from home. I will explain more about each as their "hand UP" is delivered!
Now please don't think I'm trying to be this goody goody, a person who is only doing this to get the credit, because in no way shape or form is that true. When I originally thought of this idea it was to do small stuff, bake a cake, make a homemade meal and just drop it off, offer to drive a non driver to an appointment....little things that a) don't cost myself a lot of money (cause its not about money) and b) just to puts a smile on someones face.
Little did I know that when I choose my January Family, that a little add on a local facebook group would get so many people willing t0 help me, help others!!!
I have always said that I live in a community that when the balls are down, we all help to pick them up and but them back together. I truly and blessed to live where I do and cant imagine ever leaving!
My January Family who will be know only a Family F, is a family that this time last year thought there lives couldn't get any better!
They were in the process of adopting their first child and after many years of trying also found out they were expecting. Life was on the path to perfect!
Then at the end of February 2012, momma F went into preterm labour at 23wks.
I'm happy to report that Baby F is home, living everyday to the fullest but not with out many struggles.
After a lengthy stay at our wonderful Sick Kids Hospital in Toronto, they were able to bring the baby home in the summer and finally start living as a family!!!
Due to his early arrival, baby F has had many many scary moments in his short little life but his parents are his biggest supports even when everyone was telling them there was no chance. Then never gave up and said they were willing to deal with anything and everything life and baby F had to throw at them.
I was luck enough to meet this family last march, while there were keeping us all updated on their lives. I'm even luckier to now know them personally and be able to help them on their journey.
Back in December as life would have it baby F ended up rushed back t0 sick kids because his feeding tube had come out of place, I had the honour of being trusted to watch their oldest son Toddler F....He is one spunky boy. Not unlike my own, he keeps you on your toes and doesn't stop from the time he gets up till he goes to bed....Momma F will tell you most wont take on that roll once let alone twice (I had already volunteered to watch him later that week when baby F had an appointment in Toronto).
Due to this hospital visit Poppa F end up missing some work and we all know how tight money can be around Christmas let alone, with 2 kids and just getting back on your feet after their first lengthy stay.
Baby F was scheduled for a surgery last week ( which meant pappa F was going to miss work again) and I knew how tight money was getting, like myself they find it hard to ask for help when they need it the most....so I thought, PERFECT...I will do a fill the freezer drive. I knew I couldn't personally give money to help pay for the many medical supplies they would need this month but I did know I could help fill the freezer with meals and cupboard with food so that they didn't have to think about it and could focus their money on what need to be bought.
So I thought let make the most out of the resource I have, I started by posting on my facebok status what my plan was...and the first person to respond was Momma F.
How was I going to pull this off now??? So I had no choice but to tell her my plan....she was shocked and gratefully. Tried to tell me there was other people out there that could use it more then they could, which just reaffirmed that I had chosen the right family to start the year off with.
The out pour to help was wonderfully, some of which haven't come threw but as i told everyone only help with what you can. I didn't want to out this family but I had some mutual friends guess who i was helping. I have many people donate simply because they knew who this family was...which honestly touch me.
What most don't know or even understand is how hard this momma works, yes all moms work hard....but this women is home with 2 children under the age of three, one with sever medical issues another who also has some issues they are working very hard on. Poppa F is home as often as he can be while still trying to support his family.
These two parents were meant to be parents in every way, they love with all their heart, even when life keeps throwing bombs at them, they help others every chance they can, and the love they have for each other is something that you don't see a lot of any more (sadly).
And I know if she ever read this she would say the same thing i do... "your only given what you can handle" and like me she is stubborn to a fault, independent to the point of exhaustion and would die just to make sure her boys are happy and healthy!!!!
Its my honour to know this family and to call them my friends, its also my honour to help them any way I can, cause of all the people I have come to meet in the last year... I know they will be around forever and never abuse me!
So Family F, my pray for you is that you always find HAPPINESS, even on the saddest of days. You always find JOY even on the day where all you want to do is cry, and you always remember how much you LOVE each other at this very moment in life, you two will make it threw everything life has to to offer you <3
And with that, I move on to February's Family!!!
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