When does the weekend visits get easier???

This past weekend the boys where at their dads house from Saturday morning till Tuesday afternoon. That is the longest they have ever gone & the longest we have ever been apart. 

While I missed them like crazy, even thought of asking if they could come home a day early (crazy I know) I didn't. I know they need to spend time with their dad. 

Durning the school year they only go for 1 night because of his work schedule. Now that school out it will be back to 2 nights. 

The main problem??? While honestly I'm not sure??? All I do know is that when they come home, all we seem to do is bunt head, the kids don't listen, they think they can eat and drink whenever they feel the need, they are complete slobs, argue about what they are and aren't going to do....yes even after only being gone 1 night!

So when they come home Tuesday I thought I would be prepared. We had some thing we HAD to do this week as well as some fun things to do. 

Yesterday afternoon we went to my parents for a easy dinner and a wonderful swim in the pool! What kid would like that...mine!

Well at least some of them. All I heard was....I'm hot, I'm board, I want to watch tv, I want to play on the computer, I want to go home, I want more snacks, I want this and I want that...in those words!

"I Wannnnt ______"

Whiny voice and all???

I don't understand it? I know for a fact they don't act like this at their dads, they don't act like this prior to going for visits, so why do they come home like this???

Tonight is the dreaded soccer night again ( we had a bi week last week) they are calling for rain, perfect! As I've said before I know this will be a battle of the wills, and I WILL WIN, but the though of dealing with the behavior makes me want to throw in the towel before we even leave. 

So my question: how long does it take for kids to adjust to weekend visits???

Some say months or years? We are about 9 months into full weekend visits and its only getting worse???

When will MY children realize that I won't put up with this type of behavior, that acting out while we are out is only going to make me have to take them out more (I get flustered an always end up forgetting stuff the we have to have). I always try and do my shopping when we don't always have to go but about twice a month I need to take all 3...it's only vet 1 store and should only take 30 mins MAX!

This whole single mom thing is getting old, really quick, especially are birthday time!

That's my vent for today, I'm over emotional, over tired and just plain grouchy today...only 10 hrs to bed...hopefully!!!