Well I did it...FINALY

Today I finally went down to the court house and filed all te paperwork to finalize our parenting agreement. I never thought I would have to do this but the crap is just get worse and worse and unfortunately it was my only option to get him to stop. 

Not only am I being forced to medicate my youngest son so that he can visit with his father, but his father isn't responsiable enough to return those said medications. 

So now not only did Nathan have what I would concider a mild asthma attack he night he returned from his dads, he wasnt able to have his nasal spray the 2 day after his visit and as of tomorrow night he won't be able to start his 2 day prior too visit either. 

Were back to normal visits (now that the kids are back in school) so the kids are generally at their dads for 1 night. Nathan's breathing and wheezing has been better. But because he has them for the long weekend they where there almost 3 days. That night Nathan's breathing became laboured to the point had I had his inhalor I would have give him a dose (I don't medicate lightly. It takes a lot for me to actually give it) however it wasn't available and instead of take 3 kids at 3am to the ER, I bundled him up and took him outside in the deck. It was a cool crisp night which made him have to take deep breaths and after about 30 mins he finally started breathing normal again. Was I pissed...you better believe it. I wanted nothing more then to call my ex and freak the hell out. 

But I didn't (👏) 

As it stand right now, Nathan will NOT be going for his visit this weekend. My dad who is normal calm and collective is at the end if his rope. He has been completely neutral threw everything the last 2 years but not anymore. 

My dad is taking Nathan Saturday mornin when I go and drop the older boys off and if my ex has a problem with that he's welcome to go to my parents house and deal with my dad. 

Dad said "he can call the cops if he wants he is NOT taking that kid this weekend cause he's to stupid to take his allergy seriously. If he was a man he would grow up and put his children need and health before his wife's adult children"

And when I say my dad never says shit about anything I'm not joking. My ex has pulled some pretty crappy selfish things in the last 2 years that have effected the child just to be petty, and dads always the one who says "his is coming to him...let it go"

So now not only am I withhold a child (which honestly I don't think he will even care, one less to watch for the visit. The 2 older boys can basically entertain themselves with the computer and game systems) but when he returns them Sunday my dad will be serving him the court papers. Not only does it give him a court date it also informs him he has to attend a 2hr mandatory class prior to our court date. 

So my own aneixty level is running high tonight. I'm proud that I finally followed threw , yet in my heart I worry about what wil happen now that the courts will be involved??? I've never wanted the courts to deside what's best for my children but at this point without legal consequences I can't stop the crap that he keeps pulling. Not saying he will stop doing it but now it's out of my hands (sadly)