Now this weekend I get to sit and try and wrap my head around how to make it threw till May.
April was going to be a trying month, the kids were supose to start seeing their father more (2night every other weekend instead of 1), my support was about to drop by over a quarter and it was also the beginning of birthday season in my house (yes when you have 3 kids who's birthday are all close it's consider a season! It use to be 5 birthday 5 months in a row)
Last week I went to take to the lawyer about what was going on, see if the steps I took were correct or if I jumped the gun (I have a tendace to do that...shhhh)
I had my ex sign a peice of paper stating that he agreed to stop all visitations with the kids till he was better and could show he had successfully completely the steps to prove it.
APPARENTLY....that was wrong, I should not STOP all visits but alter the visits. She agreed that overnight were out but told me the judge would look down on me if I stop all visits. So now I have to get him to resign a paper stating that he can still have communication and visits as long as they are supervised. He already has it in the court order he can have a minim of 3 phone calls per week with the kids (he hasn't called on his own for almost a year to talk to the children). That he can see the child but only with an agreed upon third party person and he wasn't to left alone with them ...now here lies the problem. We've been down this road this past summer. I had found out he had been drink while he had the children and had said visits would stop unless supervised. He choose to just not see them? He choose to blaim the entire situation in me and tried to pass off the information and blaim his wife for drinking not him. But even when I told the lawyer this she said "even if HE choses not to see them, you have all the cards on the table that he can under these conditions! Which is what a judge would look at if he ever takes me to court to say "she kept the kids from me"
So that's what I did. I called him and verbally told him earlier this week, said I would have the paperwork done up for him to sign next time I see him (which who knows when that will be) he didn't respond. Nothing??? So I pushed the envelope and asked about support, still no answer. No emotion no nothing.
Yesturday rolls around I had to go to the bank to cash my work cheque and I texted him to see if I could also cash my support cheque. Suprise suprise....no answer. I texted twice, called n left a message and emailed. 5 hours later (once banks were closed) he says no. I have no money for you till my insurance money starts coming in????
So now there is no visit, no money and a shit load of stressed thrown at me!
I haven't slept in almost 2 wks (to the point I laid down today with Nathan in my bed with me just to try and rest) I feel like a walking zombie, my kids are feeding off my stress (dalton has start waking up during the night again, peeing everywhere but the toilet, Alex task to me like he's 18 and Nathan, where do I even begin with him??? He's 3.5 going in 16!)
Thankfully my parents are taking all 3 kids for the night Saturday night to give me a break (hopefully this doesn't back fire) and so I can work. I've figured out how to make it threw this month without going in to debt (even with out receiving 2 suport payments) and can only hope I make it threw March with the same out come...fingers crossed thinks change soon cause loose over half your income with no back up plan sucks ass...especially when I'm so close to digging out from the debt of my divorce
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