Wedding and kids???

A lot has happened in my life in the last 16months, more bad but some good too!

Tonight I heard the dreaded ringtone I have for my ex (the most annoying one I could find) first he tried to get out of having the kids this week....it is mothers day you know?!?!

Yes I am aware! That problem was solved, thought that was it till Saturday pick up...NOPE

Then I get another text....I wanted you to hear it from me first but I'm getting married June 1 in a private ceremony. 

My response...I already know, that the same day as Sue is having Joys bday (different names obviously but none the less it's his niece and her daughter)

His response ....oh, ok didnt realize no big deal, have a good night

Me...did you still want the kids there? Last I heard it was on may 31

Him...No big deal take them to the party.  Doesn't make sense to bring them up here then to Their house. plus keeping them still for a half hour isn't fair. 

Me....so you don't want them there then???

So now my question is: who the hell doesn't want their children at their wedding??? 

I have been trying to figure out how it would work? The older 2 would be ok but little man is another story, but need less to say...if it was me, I would make it work!

Now comes the mom in me...I want my kids to go, he is there dad and I don't ever want them to regret not being there. When he originally asked me to pull them out of school to attend a Friday wedding I wasn't sure. I was kind of in shock. I knew they had set a couple dates and canceled but he had never officially told me he was getting married. 

Yes I was hurt last June when I found out he was "engaged" at that point everything was still very raw. We had only been split up for 6 months. 

But a year later, I'm actually happy for him. ...seriously I am. 

I've always said if I didn't make you happy I hope you find someone who does, and I would hope he would do the same for me. 

But again, who doesn't want their kids to attend their wedding???

I don't get it, are they that easy to just pass off??? Are they that much if an inconvenience you couldn't  TRY and come up with a way to have them there??? 

Then to top it off, he had invited his niece (again my best friend), we have joked about her going and ya know, she could watch my kids at the wedding and I could in turn keep hers here.  We have talked about how she wants to go because its her uncle and she loves him (god knows why) but that she doesn't support the marriage. She has even talked about having her daughters party earlier in the day (a little behind that, my ex and his girlfriend are not comfortable taking my kids to one of sues kids bday party's if I'm going to be there. He's seen her kids maybe three times since we split up, I on the other hand see them monthly if not more) so that they could attend the wedding. When he found out it was the same day as joy party he basically uninvited her to attend??? 

I feel so bad for her and it breaks my heart that he can still cause this hurt to his family (my kids included) 

Maybe once he's married, he will finally grow up! Lord know having kids didn't make it happen!