Some advice....

This past weekend I received some great advice from an old friend....
"don't expect anything emotional from him and he cant let you down".

At the time it didn't really set in but now, it makes sense.
I keep expecting the man I had children with to call and want to deal with the children. But every time we talk the guy I have now, is just going threw the motions without really caring???

The big question now is (again) WHY?

Is it easier for him to detach himself from them so that his new life seem to make sense? Does he really feel guilty? Does he really regret the decisions that he has made and now doesn't want to look like an idiot for realizing he threw away his family for what??? A couple weekends of free time, getting drunk, pretending to be a single man with no responsibility. Well I'm sorry to break it to you, its to late for that...you have children that need you. You have responsibility to them even if they don't fit into your new life. And instead of string them along, tell them what they want to hear so that you feel better with the fact your only spending 3 hrs a week with them....really show them you love them by putting them first.

Ive also heard "you cant deal rationally with irrational people" another good one. I can tell him, spell it out for him and even hold his hand while he pretends to care...but until it slaps him in the face that his kids need a father, I keep setting myself up for an emotional let down.

The worst part is, he plays me like a fiddle, he knows that as long as he keeps letting the kids down that I will keep fighting. We have set out a new parenting agreement, we agreed on most terms and argued about a few. Now to just him to sign it and put it into effect.

Which again makes me scared out of my mind....but more about that another night. I'm going to take advantage of the fact its 8:30 and all my kids are in bed and asleep!!!